It’s Okay To Be Emotional


About three years ago, I spent a week looking at wedding venues, going ring shopping, and looking up vendors for my wedding the following year.  Oh yeah, I also spent some time badgering my boyfriend at the time into proposing….because spoiler alert: I was not engaged. (I was, however, a girl who was 100% going to be ready when it happened, damnit.)

After seven full days of wedding planning blitz, I turned to my boyfriend at the time (now husband) and said, “I honestly feel like I’ve lived a year’s worth of emotions over the past week.”

That, to be honest, is the story of my whole damned life.

I am, always have been, and always will be a really emotional person.  I would argue that I am likely the most emotional person I know.

There have been times in the past when it’s really felt like a burden.

There have been times when it’s felt like it’s going to ruin everything I want and love.

There have been more times than I could count when I felt shame about how much I feel about everything.  Literally, everything.

But here’s what I’ve learned over the years: emotions are nothing to be ashamed of.  They are nothing to hide from.  They are nothing to fear.

Emotions are information - pure and simple.  If you take the time to listen to them, they have a wealth of information to share with you.

If you’re angry - that means something or someone has violated a boundary of yours. What boundary is that, and how do you want to make sure that boundary isn’t crossed again?

If you’re exhausted - that means something in your life is out of balance.  How do you want to make the imbalance right?

If you’re feeling a bit depressed, likely, something in your life is misaligned.

Hopefully, you’re getting my drift here.

Don’t run from your emotions - lean into them.

The next time you feel an uncomfortable emotion, instead of trying to push it away or ignore it (which by the way, doesn’t work) - ask yourself “What am I feeling right now?”

From there, inquire: “What information does this feeling have for me?”

Last but not least, “What would help me get back in balance?”

Once you start leaning into your emotions, a few things will happen: they’ll pass faster, you’ll start appreciating the information they provide, and you’ll be able to actually fix the situations that are causing that visceral response.



P.S. If you’re an emotional person, like me, I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you.

You have nothing to hide.

And you can even feel grateful, because that means your body and mind are giving you bountiful indicators of what is and is not working in your life.  It doesn’t always feel like it, but you’re one of the lucky ones, dear.


Gieselle Allen