Think you’re unsure about what you really want? Think again.

I talked to a few women this week who have recently taken on new roles.

They feel behind, they don’t know what they don’t know, and they’re not sure if they’re actually up to snuff.

 To put it simply, they’ve got a ton of imposter syndrome.

I want to tell you what I told them, because I know you need to hear this too: 

You are not an imposter just because you don’t know everything!

You aren’t less than, or doing something wrong. 

You’re just a person with less experience - which is 100% okay.

If you were hired into a role, whoever hired you knew your level of experience or knowledge, and were still happy to have you.  They knew exactly what your gaps are. You did not trick them or swindle them.

They’re expecting you to have as little knowledge as you do right now - because you’re just brand spanking new to what you’re doing.

It is normal, and okay, to have less knowledge sometimes.

You are not an imposter - you are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now.

When you’re worried about being an imposter, there’s a few things you can do:

#1 - Get some actual facts.  Talk to your manager, or an experienced team member, or a peer in your industry, and ask them if they feel like you have knowledge gaps that you can solve.

A lot of the times, you’ll worry about being an imposter for years without finding out if your worries are actually true, because you’re worried of being “found out.”

If you care about your growth, be proactive about finding out where you can improve. Then you don’t have to worry irrationally, and you can stay ahead of any negative feedback. You can either take action on the knowledge gaps that have been shown to you, or feel confident because you’ve found out you’re right on track. 

#2 - If you do have knowledge or experience gaps, give yourself the same compassion you’d give someone else. 

Some questions you can ask are:  “Why is it ok that I don't know that?" "Why is it unreasonable to expect myself to know that?" "How am I being unfair to myself right now?"  

Ask yourself these questions every single time these thoughts come up, and slowly but surely, they won’t feel as strong or powerful.


 


Gieselle Allen