I know that taking risks is really hard for you.
The second you want to make a change, you get caught up all the “what if’s”.
You may want a new job, and know that something isn’t quite right in your current role, but when you think about applying, these questions come up for you:
What if I hate my new job?
What if I let go of something that works for me right now, and end up in an even worse position?
What if I go looking for a new role, and I realize that I’m not as valuable as I thought I was?
And that’s just what comes up in the first 30 seconds.
Trust me, I get it - these thoughts can feel really powerful, and can overtake you before you even know what’s happening.
Your brain, bless its heart, is just trying to keep you safe. This is a leftover survival mechanism from our species’ more primitive days. In those days, change literally often meant death, and so our brains learned to try to get us to stay in the same place.
The only problem is that these thoughts don’t serve you anymore. You’re no longer physically fighting wild beasts - you’re just fighting for the title you deserve, at a company you love, and equal pay (which to be honest, is it’s own form of wild beast, but not life or death).
Your brain’s natural disposition is going to be to jump to the worst case scenario, but what I want you to practice is to focus on the best case scenario.
When you’re caught up in your what if’s ask yourself: What if everything went well? How would that improve your life? What would be different?
Your brain is going to fight it at first, but seriously. I want you to reflect on what if everything went stupidly, incredibly well. What if this exceeded your wildest dreams?
Here’s what I don’t want you to do: don’t just ask yourself this in your head, because you inevitably will feel pretty blocked, or you won’t dream big enough.
Take some time to journal about it in the notes section of your phone, grab a blank piece of paper from your job’s printer and write on that, or grab a friend and have them listen to you speak it out loud.
You might be surprised by what you comes up for you when you give yourself the chance to really dream of what might happen.
Make sure to hold onto what could go well, and whenever those “what ifs” come up, remind yourself over and over of all the good that could come as well.
You have a powerful mind. You have the ability to steer it in whichever direction you choose. Choose to steer it towards the good.